just your average feminist, lesbian, stay at home mom
So…in spite of my good intentions, I seem to have fallen off the Blog Challenge wagon. Oops.
Things have been a bit busy ’round these parts, with my wife working a ton, nap issues, and H becoming a bona fide toddler.
More soon.
Happy summer. Happy marriage equality NY!
It’s been months since I posted an installment of New Gay Heroes. I’ve had a couple of posts for the series in mind for quite some time, but just haven’t gotten around to actually writing and posting them. This weekend, though, I saw a little snippet on the Huffington Post that lit a fire under me to get going. So without further ado…
It’s true that when we think of famous lesbians, the first blonde to come to mind might be her wife, but Portia de Rossi is surely a New Gay Hero in her own right.
She and wife Ellen do wonderful things for lesbian visibility by being out, being themselves and sharing their lives with the public. Whether they are beaming in the glow of their engagement on the red carpet…
Sharing their wedding photos in People magazine…
Playing the Newlywed Game and speaking candidly about their life and love on Ellen’s talk show…
Or talking about equal marriage rights on Oprah…
Ellen and Portia are, together, such a wonderful positive representation for lesbians and same-sex marriage.
But on her own, Portia has this habit of appearing on talk shows and effortlessly and eloquently speaking about marriage equality. Just last week, she quite calmly fielded the (at times bizarre) questions of the ladies at The View with poise:
The very same day she also stopped by Good Morning America, where she again spoke about her marriage to Ellen and equal rights (that starts at about three minutes in):
I just love the way Portia speaks about equal marriage rights with such grace and ease. She makes it sound just as simple as it should – if we don’t have marriage, we don’t have equal rights. Plain and simple. Portia always manages to explain that marriage is different from being “partnered” or “unioned” or whatever other nonsense opponents of our rights try to sell us – and she always does it without breaking a sweat.
Portia de Rossi is a New Gay Hero for sure.
This is the greatest:
Available in Vermont stores all month long!
Congratulations, Vermont – enjoy your equal rights with a side of yummy ice cream!
State Attorney General Martha Coakley has filed a suit that challenges the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act.
Here’s an excerpt from boston.com:
The suit filed by state Attorney General Martha Coakley says the Defense of Marriage Act of 1996 violates the US Constitution by interfering with the state’s right to define the marital status of residents. The suit also says the law forces the state to discriminate against same-sex married couples – on certain health benefits and burial rights – or risk losing federal funding.
Massachusetts risks losing millions in dollars for MassHealth, the state’s Medicaid program for the poor, and for veterans’ cemeteries overseen by the state Department of Veterans Services, unless it obeys the Defense of Marriage Act. The federal government has told the state that it cannot provide federal funding for MassHealth benefits given to same-sex spouses. It also informed the state it will lose Veterans Affairs funding if it buries the same-sex spouse of a veteran in a cemetery, as the state does for heterosexual spouses of veterans.
The suit spefically challenges Section 3 of DOMA. GLAD had this to say:
Section 3 of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) represents an unprecedented intrusion by the federal government into the traditional and historical power of the states to make determinations of marital status. By refusing to recognize any marriage of same-sex couples-and by denying these couples access to all federal rights, protections and responsibilities related to marriage-the federal government steps in and overrides these state-sanctioned marriages. The Commonwealth’s lawsuit seeks to uphold the traditional division of power between the federal and state governments as it has always been regarding marriage.
Way to kick ass, Massachusetts!
Today, New Hampshire became the sixth state to legalize same-sex marriage. 5 of those 6 are here in New England! (But don’t hold your breath for RI)
I can’t yet find any detailed information on the bill, like what kind of “protection” for “religious organizations” is included, but I’ll keep my eyes and ears open…
Congratulations New Hampshire!
The California Supreme Court has decided to uphold Prop 8. Thankfully, the 18,000 same-sex couples already wed in California will remain that way, but no future same-sex marriages will be permitted.
This is a crushing blow.
For purposes of clarification, this case was not about whether or not the California Supreme Court wants to let same-sex couples get married – this case was about the legality of Proposition 8:
Visit DayofDecision.com for details on protests taking place around the country today if you feel compelled to speak out and stand with others to express your disappointment in this decision. I hope all of us attending will remember that while we are justified in being angry and have a right to speak out, peaceful protests will be most beneficial to our cause.
So we know that a marriage equality bill passed the New Hampshire Legislature earlier this month, and that the Governor said he would not sign the bill into law as it was. Here’s what 365gay.com has to say about where we are now:
The original marriage bill passed the legislature earlier this month, but Lynch said he would veto it unless it offered better protections to churches that oppose same-sex marriage.
The revisions approved earlier Wednesday in the Senate by a 14-10 vote would have made it clear that churches, church organizations and staff are protected from lawsuits if they refuse to permit same-sex marriages.
But when it went to the House in the afternoon, it was defeated by only two votes – 188-186.
The House then voted 207-168 to ask the Senate to negotiate a compromise with the governor instead of killing the bill.
[My emphasis]
This leaves us waiting (for who knows how long) for a compromise. My question is, what will the revised bill really mean?
I was always under the impression that no matter what the law, churches and religious organizations had the right to deny anyone they wished from having their weddings within their doors. But then Vermont, Maine, and now New Hampshire started talking about putting protection for religious organizations in their marriage equality bills, which I thought was strange. I thought it was a given that churches could continue to discriminate at will, but that maybe these provisions were being included to appease the religious right and make it clear that marriage equality was not a threat to religious organizations that don’t condone it.
Then I got this comment on my blog from Brenda:
Just wanted to let you and your readers know that the changes are not just for performing ceremonies. The religious organizations automatically have that provision. What the changes say are that social religious organizations, such as the Knights of Columbus, don’t have to rent their halls to same sex couples for their ceremonies or receptions. It also adds an amendment that allows religious organizations such as hospitals (St. Mary’s) and Catholic Charities to discriminate against same sex couples. This means that if you are a same sex, legally married couple, these places can deny your spouse benefits if you work there, spousal privilege if you get hospitalized there and can deny you service if you need it. This is not right. Just thought you would like to know what we are settling for.
I tried to do some research, but am coming up empty-handed! The Human Rights Campaign doesn’t even mention this. MassEquality has nothing. What is the deal?
Going back to the 365gay.com article I quoted above, they use the language ”permit same-sex marriages” – they don’t say “recognize same-sex marriage.” I know it’s semantics, but in this case, the difference between religious organizations having the right to refuse to “permit” vs. “recognize” same-sex marriages is a big one! It is the difference between my wife and I not being allowed to get married in a church (no complaints from me – there are plenty of religious organizations that do accept gays, if you are so inclined), and my wife not being allowed to come to my side if I were to be in an accident and rushed to a hospital that’s run by a religious organization that hates gays. That is a HUGE difference.
So, okay, who has links? Who has the answers? What the fuck is going on?
Governor John Lynch of New Hampshire says that he will sign the same-sex marriage bill if it is changed to give religious organizations the power to decide to whether or not to perform ceremonies for same-sex weddings.
In my opinion, it seems very likely that this change will be made, since both Vermont and Maine’s marriage equality bills had similar provisions.
We are so close to 5 out 6 here in New England!!
The New York State Assembly has passed a same-sex marriage bill.
The bill passed 89-52, with 5 Republicans among those who voted for it.
Next, the State Senate will need to vote on the bill. There is no word yet on when the Senate vote might happen, but it is believed that there might not yet be enough support for it to pass. We’ll stay tuned!
Equal marriage rights in New Hampshire are now in the hands of Gov. John Lynch.
The bill passed the Senate and House, and now we are waiting for the Governor’s approval or veto…
C’mon John, all the cool kids in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Vermont, and Maine are doing it!!
